Sunday, June 5, 2011

Father of the Groom Speech June 4, 2011

Saturday June 4th, 2011 I witnessed, along with many many friends and family members, my son's wedding, as I mentioned in the previous post.

During the dinner, a few of us stood and gave a some kind words of encouragement.

Here is the text of the speech which I gave:

One day, during the summer of 2004, on Cape Cod, in the middle of the afternoon, I was standing inside my parents house in Chatham, it was one of those clear beautiful blue sunny days.

I looked out to the porch and Rob and Sasha, who had been togther by then four years, were sitting and talking to to each other.

I could not hear them, I don't know what they were saying.

But they were talking with each other, unaware of not just me but everything around them.

It was not a moment of love,
it was a moment of being,
and is that not ultimate love?

In those few seconds, I knew Sasha and Rob were good for each other.

A measure of this wedding today, will be if in 20 years we stumble upon Rob and Sasha and they are still talking in that way.

Since what I saw that day was true, I know they will be.

Sasha, you know I love you, and am so glad to welcome you as my daughter in law.

Finally, Robert, as a father to his son, I want to tell you this: you are the man I wanted to be.


The reaction to the last two lines was astounding. I wrote this from the heart.


  1. Dear Father of the Groom,

    That has to go down as THE BEST father of the groom speech I have ever heard. If I ever get either of my girls to a rehearsal dinner I now have my model. Congratulations on a job well done.


  2. I cried then, and I am tearing up again now. It was such a simple and fully truthful and loving speech.

    And btw Dad..... if you say this... I will bawl!!! Just Fyi.